Sexual intimacy in marriage is good. It’s supposed
to happen. We’re supposed to have joy.
I just find it interesting how many LDS families
sort of forget this or get away from it. I read a book a year ago in one of my
marriage classes called Then Comes
Marriage. It explained how many young couples are never taught about sexual
intimacy. The wedding night is a big huge surprise and a huge commotion of
misunderstanding and embarrassment. And that just sort of continues their whole
marriage. (Not all the time of course. Just sometimes.) I think that if this
does continue, if it gets to the point where the wife (or husband) doesn’t want
to have sex ever (like it is portrayed in the media) then it causes some huge
problems.
We talked about how we are always striving to meet
our needs. However, when we go after things that are fake or don’t satisfy, our
needs will never be met. In the case of sexual intimacy in marriage, if there
is no intimacy the wife or husband will seek out satisfaction elsewhere.
Intimacy is a real need.
Pornography is very easy to find. There has been a
huge explosion of erotica like 50 Shades of
Grey and the film Magic Mike. There will always be opposition in all
things, so these sorts of things will always be there. However, I think there
has been an exponential growth in the access and varying kinds of porn for
several reasons. First, fewer people are getting married. They never have that
emotional intimacy with someone and try to satisfy it elsewhere. Also, there
have been studies showing that married individuals have more sex than those that
are single. Since there is less sex, erotica and porn will be sought after.
(Not by everyone. This is just a broad statement.)
I think if we teach our children the sacredness and
place of physical intimacy in marriage it will help them to understand why
pornography is so evil and why sex in marriage is so important.
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