Everyone will have stress in their lives. This semester
I’m taking a class specifically on Family Stress and Coping, and it has helped
me to understand why we go through rough times.
It’s hard to make sense of a crisis. Our minds are
going crazy and we’re just trying to understand “Why did this happen?” and “What
will we do now?” I don’t have all the answers. I don’t know why some things
happen. But when we go through these crazy experiences we have the opportunity
to learn so much.
Stress makes us change. It’s sort of like a grilled
cheese sandwich. Before stress, or the grill, we’re just a whole bunch of
different people in a family. We work together well. The ingredients of a grilled
cheese sandwich, say cheese, cream cheese, jalapeno, bacon, and white bread, sort
of work together well. We’re not perfected though (although bacon is pretty
close to perfection.) Then you put it on the grill and everything changes. The
whole sandwich starts to mold together to form one unit. The bacon might get a
bit burnt or the cheese might melt out a bit, but just the right amount and
crispiness is left in the end. The taste of the cheese softens the heat of the jalapenos
and the saltiness of the bacon. The bacon adds crispiness where the sandwich
would be too soft otherwise. The grilled cheese sandwich has become stronger
and better because of the situation.
When we’re going through stress as a family we mold
ourselves to fit the situation. We go through a refining process. We start to
change how we meet each other’s needs and we act complimentary to each other.
In the end, the family becomes a stronger unit after it has coped. They are
more resilient to change afterwards.
So though we go through a bit of heat and craziness
and the world seems to melt around us, stress is for our benefit, especially
when it takes place in a family.
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